Dear Graham
I recently joined a good amateur choir; we are taking part in festivals and competitions around the country. It is a wonderful experience but I have a small income and the cost of travel is considerable. As I got to know the rest of the group, they started to ask me to join them at pubs or restaurants during breaks in our rehearsals and performances. Initially I offered a couple of feeble excuses, before returning to my sandwiches and my Daily Telegraph; but they persevered, and I have been persuaded a couple of times. It was very enjoyable. I was, however, shocked by the expense. How can I explain to these lovely people that I simply cannot afford to join them every time? A further question: how can I do so without them offering to pay for me, which I am sure they would but which would be unfair to them and mortifying for me?
Tim, Leics
Dear Tim
You clearly enjoy singing and the...
